The
Attitude and Latitude of Forgiveness -Dr TN Chugh
SIRSA NEWS
15 July, 2016
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The
Attitude and Latitude of Forgiveness
Forgiveness
is voluntary and intentional feeling to give up resentment from someone who has
done something wrong. We should adopt a merciful tendency, without agitation,
so that the victim realizes the fault. It has been observed that the victims
also undergo a positive change in feelings and attitude regarding offense. Many
persons get annoyed and angry at petty mistakes of others while great persons
possess humility of forgiveness. Let us go out of negative emotions and do not
expect compensation to forgive others for their faults. The Lord also commands
us to repent on sins and seek His reverence in the form of forgiveness.
The words
related to forgiveness are pardon, exculpate, exonerate, remission, condone,
excuse, liberate etc. The person who work against this nobility, adopt abhor,
despise, execrate, loathe, avenge, penalization and retaliation.
Passion to
Adopt Forgiveness:
• Forgiveness is not an instinct and
choice but it is a skill which a person can develop through learning and
understanding. Many persons acquire this noble quality through the supreme
guidelines of religious ascetics, noble teachers and virtuous elderly persons.
• The capacity of forgiveness has to be
decided whether a person is trying to forgive one or others or seek remission
for others. The status of crime also cannot be ignored.
• The excellence of forgiveness can be
obtained through introspection, sanctity and meditation. It is the divine
blessing which wishes us to perform righteous actions. The quality of pardon is
a strong spiritual attribute.
• Presume glorious achievement when you
forgive someone reflecting personal moral benefits.
• Confer effective apology on
understanding limits of offence quite different from your heart-felt kindness.
• Develop sympathy to discard the
feelings of anger and revenge to encourage the concept of humanity.
• Forgiveness may consume time and energy
because certain decisions are not instant. It may be in the form of condoning,
excusing, pardoning, forgetting or reconciliation.
• Do not indulge malpractices, harsh or
quarrelsome actions which may turn to be sinful deed. It is not good to have
friendship with people of evil and negative thinking.
• Meditation helps us to live, love and
progress with peace. Let us work at our regular meditation with commitment,
patience and humility without expecting or demanding anything in return.
Prayers and meditation can purify our mind, provide soul power tonic and
elevate sublimity.
Benefits of Forgiveness:
1. Forgiveness is a kind and compassionate
feeling to lead a blissful life. Forgiveness given or taken can be helpful in
providing reconciliation and peace. Goodness in man is like fragrance in
flowers.
2. Strengthen relationship with friends and
neighbors because certain events may be misappropriate, insulting or even
quarrelsome. Such situations may cause disappointments and hurt our feelings of
trust and commitments. Forgiveness at personal level or through certain
mediator can resolve the misunderstanding and then motivate for better relations.
Teachers should also acquire the quality of forgiveness to inspire their
students.
3. Improvement of family concerns:
Sometimes, the incidents of true or false blaming appear among parents and
children, brothers and sisters, husband and wife, family members of in-laws
etc. All the members should adopt the feelings of co-operation,
trustworthiness, commitment and sacrifice for harmony. Forgiveness stops the
downward perception and improves our relations much before decline and
termination.
4. Promote tolerance and humility: The
attitude of pardon is internal humane quality which will provide enduring peace
of mind. However, the grudge creates tension for the victim and the sufferer.
Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness, humiliation or dishonor.
5. Create peace at national level: The
passion of forgiveness with eminent politicians, administrators and statesmen
can avoid enmity among co-workers and followers.
6. Positive feeling is healthy and
productive to reduce sufferings. The concept of ego, ill-will, hatred, exploitation and
superstition weakens your consciousness.
The
Intensity of Crimes:
The extent
and quality of offences are different which are forwarded to the court of laws
for seeking justice. Certain misdoings are being mentioned here with enhancing
trends:
• Anger, complaint, disrespect,
punishment through parents or teachers, quarrels due to difference in opinions
among family members, do not feel sorry for mistake, creating tensions among
neighbors or society, do not follow norms of traffic, delayed payments of
debts, arrogance of pride etc.
• Small accidents, beating, theft,
non-payment of debt, corruption, termination from job without reason etc.
• Large scale attack with attempt to
murder, action of dacoit, property seizure, acid attack, violent assault on
govt. official, incidents of rape etc.
Sometimes,
the culprit remains un-identified; therefore, the instant forgiveness is
difficult.
Eminent
Agencies promoting Forgiveness:
Elderly and
socially important persons or elected representatives of villages etc.try to
resolve many issues through collective and timely meetings with culprit and the
harmed individuals Their family members are also requested to approach for
peaceful solution. Certain state governments have also appointed magistrates to
decide the cases through settlements even
amongst the persons already involved in judicial courts. The criminals
subjected to jails are also provided some relief on recommendations from police,
when the prisoner adopts good behavior. The president of the country also has
the right to review the judicial punishment to provide certain relief to the
culprit. The person subjected for capital punishment may be provided long term
imprisonment.
Many important quotes promote forgiveness:
Ashta
Vakra---Forgiveness is supreme peace. Take forgiveness as innocence,
compassion, contentment and truth as nectar.
Mother
Teresa---There are a few ways we can practice humanity: To speak as little as
possible on oneself; To accept contradictions and corrections carefully; To
pass-over mistakes of others; To accept insults and injuries; To accept being
slighted, forgotten or disliked; To be kind and gentle even under provocations;
Never stand on one’s dignity; To choose always the hardest.
C. S.
Lewis---“I think that God forgives us, we must forgive ourselves, otherwise, it
is almost setting up ourselves as higher tribunals than Him.
Joel
Osteen---Keep in mind, hurting people hurt other people as a result of their
pain. If somebody is rude and inconsiderate, you can almost be certain that
they have some unresolved issues inside. They have some major problems, anger,
resentment or heart-ache, they are trying to cope with or overcome. The last
thing they need is for you to make matters worse by responding angrily.
Martin
Luther King---Forgiveness is not occasional art, it is constant attitude.
Alexander
Pope---To err is human and to forgive Divine.
Divine aspects of Forgiveness:
The
prominent philosophers belonging to various religions consider that our
misdoings and wrong actions against any person, society or nation as sins. The
disobedience of moral laws (divine command) creates tensions, anguish, pain and
suffering in our mind that we have acted against the divine power. We should
repent on our sins to seek His forgiveness. We can acquire relief, comfort and
even pleasure if we focus our attention. We should adopt virtuous principles of
humility and humanity. We should provide moral and financial help to the needy.
The concept of forgiveness changes bitterness to love. Actually there is not
much difference between human and divine forgiveness, therefore, one should
forgive with sincere mind and willing spirit. Be merciful because God is
merciful. Give the world, the best you have anyway. Forgiveness is not a
feeling; it is a supreme attribution through strong personalities. Hindu
priests treat forgiveness as ‘khshma’. This noble quality can be granted
through spiritual kindness, tenderness and compassion. This achievement can be
promoted through purity of thoughts, tolerance, courage and meditation
Contributed by: Dr. Triloki Nath Chugh.
Co-Ordinator, Shah Satnam Ji Educational Institutions,
Dera Sacha Sauda, Sirsa (Haryana, India
).
The writer is an eminent former Professor of Zoology; he has more than 3
decades of teaching experience in various colleges of KUK and is presently
Co-ordinator, Shah Satnam Ji Educational Institutions, DSS, Sirsa. He can be
reached on his Mobile No:+91-94160 48789 and email: trilokichugh@gmail.com . Dr Chugh has published many Zoology research papers;
Guided several M.Phil students for research; M.Sc. Secured 2nd
Position BITS PILANI 1968; Gold Medalist in French Diploma 1981 KUK; Prinicipal
at SSS Boys College for 7 years.
